“A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.” Proverbs 17:17
“Where did the last piece of pizza go?”
“I ate it.”
“But I was still hungry. Why do you always have to do that?”
“Do what? I was hungry, so I ate the pizza. What is your big problem?”
Two brothers, who should have known better, had an argument about really nothing. Words were flung into the air—words that wounded hearts and hurt egos. They wouldn’t admit it; teenage egos are too concerned with appearances to really get to the heart of the matter. Both were too proud to admit that there was a misunderstanding caused by the refusal to say two little words, “I’m sorry.” Those two words are not always an admission of guilt; they are a barometer of the heart. We may not have intended to harm the other person, but we should be concerned when they are. “I’m sorry” means I feel your pain—even if I didn’t intend for you to be hurt.
We are so willing to say it to strangers. Carts bump in the grocery aisle, “I’m so sorry.” A mistake is made in making change, “I’m sorry. Here’s your correct change.” A missed phone call, “Sorry I missed your call.” The list goes on and on, but why won’t we say it to the ones we love, when saying it would make a huge difference in a relationship? Our verse today says that a friend loves at all times. Saying “I’m sorry” to a friend should come easily. We are concerned about keeping those friendly relationships intact and healthy.
“And a brother is born for adversity.” We normally think this means “brothers are expected to fight and cause adversity.” The truth is, that word adversity really means, “times of trouble.” A brother is there for when times get really bad in life. When even your friends cannot help you, a brother can. The relationship with your brother, or sister, runs deep—deep enough that hurts and wounds can last a lifetime—but forgiveness runs deeper than those hurts. If you have a sibling (or more than one) be thankful for the relationship that runs deep enough to last for a lifetime, and be willing to say you’re sorry, even if you’re not exactly sure why it needs to be said. You know your sibling well enough to know when something is wrong—be the brother who is there during adversity. You may have been the cause, you may have been the spectator, but saying you’re sorry will go a long way to letting your sibling know how important they are—especially if it’s over just a piece of pizza.
Thought provoker: Is there someone in your life, friend or family, who needs to hear “I’m sorry” from you? Are you willing to take that step to help them heal?
Lord, please help me today to be the healer of relationships and not the cause of hurt. Even if I am not sure why, please help me to be willing to say, “I’m sorry” because I truly am concerned about the person I love, and I don’t want them to hurt. Please help him/her, today, to know Your healing love through me. Amen.
I hope you have a good, Godly day!